The moment when a nanny joins a family may seem to some to be an issue that only concerns three key parties: the nanny, the parents, and the child. In practice, however, the whole range of relationships soon opens up in the wider family context: what if grandparents have different attitudes towards education; what if the aunt is used to being listened to and to her own opinion when it comes to your child; what if a relative who is often present in your home considers nannies an unnecessary member of the household; what if (almost) everyone in the extended family has a different opinion about the role of the nanny in your child's life?

The key thing that can prevent many of these unnecessary inconveniences is your conversation with members of the extended family, at the very beginning of hiring a person who will look after your child. The sooner you explain how you agreed on obligations and patterns of behavior with the nanny - the better for everyone!

It will be of great benefit to you to first explain to your relatives what the nanny represents to the child and to you two as parents. We advise you to point out that your family needs a nanny, that she is a professional, a person the parents trust, and a person the child accepts. Emphasize that, within the framework of the contract, concluded with the Royal Nanny agency, you have clearly defined responsibilities of the nanny in your home and outside the home - primarily regarding family gatherings. Make it easier for yourself and define for the extended family that you expect them to accept the nanny and to treat her in a cultural and supportive manner towards her work. It is very important that they do not interfere in her work - specifically in the way of organization and attitudes of upbringing - because the presence of several adult authorities in regulating the child's activities will make him confused and take the opportunity not to listen to any of the adults, which in the end who will not be well. Also, it should always be stated as a clear position that the nanny acts as an extended hand of the parents, in accordance with their decisions and agreements reached.

Ask the extended family to solve potential problems they have with the nanny or concerns about her work in a polite and constructive manner, with the presence or knowledge of you as a parent.

Finally, remind your relatives (and close friends) that the presence of a nanny in their lives can represent an opportunity for the extended family to gain additional quality of interpersonal relationships, but also logistics and help - because adults are allowed to enjoy their mutual companionship, as well as in the awareness that everyone's dear child is in safe hands!